Small Talk

Small talk – about small people

June 14th, 2009


A little over two years ago, I became a mother for the first time. Well, unless you count my dogs, cats, rabbits, birds, fish, rodents, and turtles. I’d heard about this parenting thing before and I approached it warily. It seemed like a really tough gig. Getting married was no problem. Getting pregnant? Scary!

We took the plunge anyway because we liked the idea of creating a family. It was the best decision of our lives. It’s opened up a new world to me, because I see things from a whole different perspective; sometimes, literally. Like when I lie on the basketball court and we look up at the sky, or sit on the sidewalk and watch bugs.

Mostly, it just opens one up to a whole new level of compassion. It feels like my heart is walking outside my body.

I’ve found among my circle of friends and acquaintances that the parents among us enjoy swapping stories and sharing bits of advice. I realized early on that I’m constantly learning new tricks by watching how others handle situations, even if it’s just how my mother, husband, or sitter responds to the baby.


For my friends without children, I notice I’m always answering various questions that people either wouldn’t know or wouldn’t consider: How drastically do kids really affect your life? Why are you always tired? How come you don’t want to go out for drinks anymore? How come you don’t have time to check Facebook but twice a month? Why are there small bite-sized chunks missing on the corners of your drywall? Yep, that’s stuff I wouldn’t have ever though of or known before one Miss Olivia came into my life.

I see this blog as an extension of that circle of friends, and I would love if you and I can continue a conversation in which we share tips and swap funny stories. And hopefully not scare the non-parents too badly.


Listen, I gotta run. Olivia’s on my lap as I type this and she is crumpling up all my bills, receipts, business cards, and bank statements, and throwing my jewelry into the trash. Thanks for stopping in and I look forward to cyber-hanging out with you!

7 Responses to “Small talk – about small people”

  1. cat:

    Welcome to the blogosphere! Your daughter is adorable!

  2. Attila Seress:


    This blog is a great idea! I'm a new dad myself and would find your blog a welcome place to share some fun stories. I think you're right about transition and I would like to add that it's also a change for the extended family as well. Sisters are now aunties and moms are now grandmas. Some like their new titles, some don't. It's all just a part of life I suppose.


  3. World Wide Ed:

    Congrats Di! Hope this doesn't take you away too much from your awesome AroundHawaii work. 😛 Talk to you soon...

  4. Rodney:

    Aloha Diane,

    Welcome to The Honolulu Advertiser blogs! I'm looking forward to reading all about the antics and accomplishments of Olivia. As well as your experiences as a first time parent.

  5. kiyomi c.:

    I agree with "cat"... your daughter is very adorable! Although I am not a mother, yet, I am an aunty and a godmother to a handful of toddlers. I can still relate to the joys and frustrations or "trying" to raise a child 🙂 I look forward to your blogs!

  6. Diane Ako:

    LOL Thanks, Ed! 🙂

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