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Girls' Night Out!

July 27th, 2009

I still keep in touch with the same clique of about a dozen friends from high school. It's a somewhat rotating group of mostly women, based on who moves back to- or away from- Hawaii. We also get together when one of us returns for a visit. The older I get, the more I appreciate the easy familiarity of old friends who've known each other since the seventh grade.



Lately, seven of us met up for a bon voyage dinner to say goodbye to Lisa, nicknamed Ziggy, whom the recession is forcing to move to California. Now, half of us have young children. If you will note, none of them are in the picture. That's because we left them at home with Dad! Yeah!


We looked around and laughed at the luxury of adults-only dining. When was the last time you ate without Sinjin, I asked Janel. She looked at me. "When was the last time we all got together? Last November?" she responded. Nine months ago?? Same answer from Tina and Zig.


As much as I love Olivia, it's nice to have some "me time" once in a while. No matter how well behaved a toddler is at dinnertime, they will still require some level of attention from you. We enjoyed just being able to focus on our adult conversations.

A different get together, with token husband

A different get together, with token husband

Of course, "girls night out" sure has a different meaning these days, than when we were in college. Our dinner was at 5:30, and after making a wildly spontaneous stop for  - gasp - yogart, we were home by 7:30. Don't laugh.  As a graveyard shift worker, that's still past my bedtime.

How often do you dine out without the kids? What do you do on your Girls' Night Out/ Boys' Night Out? Do you still see your school chums?

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4 Responses to “Girls' Night Out!”

  1. theDman:

    Night out without the family is a trip to Genki's Sushi. That's a treat (albeit an expensive one nowadays). You can eat at the counter so it is no big deal to eat alone.

    Those kind of nights are rare. Even more rare is the boys' night out where we would go to the Korean beverage establishments. As long as you hold the line in your group that "...sorry, we are just here to watch the game...", it can be a good time, but if just one guy caves in, its gonna be like swimming with sharks with a bloody nose.

  2. Rosette:

    Now that my boys are older my husband and I spend more time having lunch out together just the two of us....OUR TIME ..

  3. David In Oregon:

    Diane, it's cool that you keep in contact with folks from up on the hill. I wish I could say the same. Over the years, I've lost contact with almost all of them. It doesn't make it any easier that I no longer live in the Islands.

    It's funny that you mention Ziggy. If you had just mentioned her only by her real name, I would have had no clue who you were talking about. Mention Ziggy, and it all becomes clear. Throughout my short time there, there were only 2 people I knew with that nickname, a guy from 2 graduating classes before you, and your classmate.

    Imua from across the Pacific.

  4. Sittinginlimbo:

    Hi Diane,

    I was just talking to one of my best friends about our next girls night. There was 7 of us girls, we all knew each other since elementary days. Now there's only 5 of us that really keep in contact with each other. Two actually moved away and the others we had falling out with. So the remaining girls that still chat we still go out. Usually dinner and drinks to follow, all of us has kids except for one, and we do get together if one of the other girls that live in the mainland come home for a visit. We love when we get together it's just like old times just sitting around talking stories, it's like we pick up when we last spoke type of thing. I love those girls!

    As for me and my husband we have date nights. Our goal is to at least go out twice a month, visit a resturant we've never tried and the number one rule is DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE KIDS! lol. Of course I'm always breaking the rules! lol. I love it when it's just me and my husband.

    When it's family time (meaning w/da kids) we usually go to the beach or try doing kid friendly things or something the adults will enjoy too. Infact i'm planning with my freinds to have a family day at the discovery center. It looks like fun. The kids never been there before (yeah I know I'm a bad parent! lol) and now my son is at 17months i'm thinking he'll have a ball too!!!!

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