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White belt wife

August 31st, 2011

In most martial arts, you start as a white belt, and work your way to black. In some schools, you're white until you're black. In other schools, colors are assigned to denote rank. The colors are not standardized across all martial arts; they are particular to the school.

Recently, Claus was engaged in a controversial discussion that was dividing his group of buddies. The two sides couldn't agree on how to achieve something. Nobody was budging for months.

Finally, his side managed to convince the other side to see it their way. How did they do it? They planted a suggestion and made the other side feel like it was their idea in the first place.

Claus shared this news with me one evening after the guys came to their agreement. He was relieved and proud of his diplomacy skills.

Women have to do that all the time to accommodate men's egos. "Congratulations," I said. "You are now ready to be someone's wife."


Some weeks later, we had another conversation in which I was poking gentle fun at him. "Ha ha ha. Wife thinks funny," he said, faking a pout.

"Wife knows she's funny," I answered.

"Wife thinks she's right," he retorted.

"Wife knows she's right," I laughed.

Thinking he would get one over me, he said, "You said I was a wife!"

"You're just a white belt wife," I said. "You need more practice."

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3 Responses to “White belt wife”

  1. Rosette:

    my youngest son does that all the time ..after he is done arguing with his teacher the teacher all mix up....funny... in the end the teacher agrees with him...I pass my skills to him...then when I argue with my youngest son he tries to mix me up but I still win.

  2. Rosette:


  3. kuunakanaka:

    aloha Diane:

    everyone needs a bit more practice.

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