By Diane Ako
Apparently, the game of love is often played out over a cell phone screen. That's what I hear from my single friends, anyway.
I wouldn't know. I've been married over a decade, so texting wasn't popular when I was dating. It was invented, but it wasn't common.
Then, I read a hilarious article in the August 27 issue of Time magazine which confirms what I've noticed, and handily includes a flow chart to help figure out where one stands in the dating process.
It does change the game a little bit - one can now monitor the cell phone obsessively for a message - though really, it just boils down to the same strategy and positioning that existed way before cell phones or regular phones.
After I read Time's flow chart, I realized I'd actually participated in some of that angling, because I've listened to my single friend Dane's many stories about various first dates. He meets a lot of women online, so every miniscule move is amplified by the lack of familiarity by an awkward meeting of two strangers.
As ad hoc romantic advisor, I've analyzed his reports on what the girl said, when she said it, how she said it, and what he should do next. You texted her when? And then what did she say? Did she write you back immediately or was there a long time in between? Don't text her again. Too soon.
Still, I'm glad I conducted my love life in a pre-texting era. The paradox of all this technology is that people are losing the social skills to conduct face-to-face relationships; the human touch becomes lost in all this supposed connectivity.
What do you think? Does texting make dating easier or harder?