By Diane Ako
A pet peeve is people who shake my hand too hard. Not the pumping up and down part, but the grabbing my hand and squeezing it.
It drive me insane. I usually am wearing a ring on each hand so when clasped firmly like a hand therapy ball, it hurts me. The ring is driven into the flesh of the fingers. I'm usually in a little bit of shock so I don't say anything for a few seconds, and since the shake only lasts a few seconds, it's done. I pull my hand back and rub it and think of how annoyed I am.
I get that image is many things, so I do my part to live up to most of the other things that signal confidence in today's Western society. I wear clean and pressed clothing. I brush my teeth. I make eye contact that would get me attacked if I were looking at an angry dog.
The handshake is one of the things I haven't mastered. I know the handshake can say so much in so little time- if executed correctly: confidence, control, the right blend of aggression tempered with diplomacy. I can do some stuff right. But, I admit I proffer the limp wrist.
I try to to get away with slight bows (since I work for a Japanese company) and A-frame hugs (since I'm in Hawaii.) I can never predict who is a hard handshaker, either - it's happened to me with both genders and in a variety of industries.
My hand has been crushed a few times in the last couple months so I'm really trying to remind myself to be careful when forced to shake hands. I have been curling up a few fingers in my hand really tight so they can't be smooshed as easily.
What's your pet peeve?