SAHM Club

March 7th, 2014
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I'm officially a member of the SAHM Club - Stay At Home Mom Club. It's really nice.

I did this some four years ago but at the time, Olivia was two years old and so I still didn't have any time to myself. It's kind of amazing to have a house that is quiet, and all to myself, for six whole hours a day while she is in school.

My friend Beth Hillyer escorted me through my first day of this new life. In her characteristically sunny way, she invited me to take a long walk with the Labs.

Over I went, and the very second I came out of my car, two yellow Lab pups hurtled towards me and immediately jammed their snouts in my pants. They are one year old and males, therefore overly enthusiastic and learning boundaries. At least one of them should have bought me a drink after the welcome they gave me.

We played with dogs in mud puddles. We looked at her chicken coop and the eggs that her Americana hens are laying in an unauthorized spot, which is in the bamboo when it should be in the hen house. I was given a proper introduction to the hens: Ruby, Buttercup, Brownie, and a whole bunch more whose names I do not remember.

We had lunch, and over pizza she revealed the secret of Stay at Home Momming: "You will not get as much done as you think you should. I drop the kids off at school. I do laundry, tend the dogs, the hens, the yard, the housework, and then it's time to get the boys again. But it's wonderful," she said, of a world whose horizon I'm just starting to peer over.

When I bemoaned my lack of land, she invited me to communally farm at her house. I might have to unleash all my vegetable-growing, chicken-raising aspirations on Beth's yard.

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We then parted ways because it was already time to get our kids after school. She sent me home with a basket of eggs that she harvested from the forest, much to Brownie's dismay.

Olivia got my full attention after school. We did homework. She biked outside. I cooked dinner. The husband was happy that everything was taken care of when he got home.

It was a lovely day. I can get used to this!

What's your SAHM or SAHD (Stay At Home Dad) routine?

6 Responses to “SAHM Club”

  1. M:

    Hello Diane,
    I wish I could be a SAHD but I have to work but I can retire soon. We have an empty nest so there's no kids around and I'll probrably spend my mornings at the beach standup paddling which I love to do, when I retire, come home take a nap and do some house chores.


  2. Lowtone123:

    At least one of them should have bought me a drink after the welcome they gave me...or maybe a cigarette.


  3. rayboyjr:

    Hey Diane ... have you ever looked into starting some kind of hobby/business/"something to do thing while you're at home" thing??? ...

    ... you already are a brand name in Hawaii ...


  4. Diane Ako:

    Yes. That hobby/business/thing is called caregiving for not one but two parents, and trying to manage my own family! It's definitely enough to keep my days full.


  5. Barbie Ho:

    Dear Diane,

    I have been meaning to email you for a very long time to say "thank you" for your post a while back while I was battling leukemia. Our family is so grateful for old friends, like you, who prayed for us and sent healing thoughts our way. Truly, it was so kind. Thank you.

    Its been 2-1/2 years since my stem cell transplant and life is good. My health is improving daily and our family is returning to our rhythm and routine. It was a true challenge, but those struggles have made life today so much more worthwhile and wonderful for all of us.

    I hope to see you around town one day. Again, thank you for your thoughts and prayers ... and for asking others to do the same.

    Love,
    Barbie & Keahi


  6. Diane Ako:

    Barbie, What a kind note you left... thank you. I'm so glad to hear you're doing well. You have so much to live for and it's really wonderful to know your challenges have turned a corner. With much aloha, Diane


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