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Guilty giveaways

March 12th, 2014

You know the look the dog gives you when he's done something wrong? This face, courtesy Inca:


Guilt for eating trash.

Guilt for eating trash.

Olivia did the same thing after school. The minute I picked her up from school, she said, "Sorry, Mommy, for the message the teacher left on your phone."

I had not gotten a message, but I did see the teacher in the hallway as I went to get Olivia. On our way back to the car, I went to look for Teacher.

"Did you leave me a voice mail? Because I didn't get anything on my phone," I asked her.

"No, I was calling a repairman for a house emergency during class time, and the kids were very nosy about who I was talking to. I told them to mind their own business," she answered.

This immediately told me Olivia's guilty conscience assumed Teacher was calling to complain about her. "What color light did you get today?" I asked my kid.

She gave me the same sheepish look the dog gives me when they know they've done something bad. "Red..." she muttered softly.

I gave her the same disapproving look and voice of disappointment. Thanks to my kid, I get to practice this face a lot. "Olivia. What happened now?"

She gets these at least once a week. (As I've complained about in a previous blog.) I used to get really upset and now I'm so used to it, I'm numbly disgusted.

One day, I have to tell myself. One day it'll get better. The dog figured it out. Now just waiting for the girl to catch up.

2 Responses to “Guilty giveaways”

  1. Lowtone123:

    My son is nine, still waiting for that day. Not the behavior at school, but toward his mother and I.

  2. makaha wahine:

    When my son was small he fell down a lot. I reasoned that his mind was at where he wanted to be but his body took a lot of falls before he reached his destination. Eventually he got well coordinated. Olivia will be too. You are such a cool mom. I hope she laughs when she reads about your parenting skills in all of your columns when she is older.

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