Olivia exercised her independence on this trip by asking to do things herself. It started at Disneyland, where she was very eager to ride the rides by herself. If the lines were short, if the carriage accommodated just one to two riders per row, and if the attendant allowed her to go alone, then I'd say OK.
I let her go by herself on Tarzan's Treehouse at Disneyland. We went together as a group first, then she asked to go by herself. It is a walking attraction, and it involves a fair amount of steep stairs, which is why it did not have a line.
It's totally contained so she really can't run off or get snatched, but I was still quite the Nervous Nellie. I stood by the exit staring up at the walking path, trying to follow her movements. I didn't let my guard down until Olivia safely exited. Claus and Joann just laughed at me while they sat on the side and talked.
It continued in Santa Cruz, when we checked into the hotel. I booked a room with two beds because historically, I will sleep with Olivia and Claus will sleep alone. That is not the way he wants it, but it is the way everyone gets the most sleep.
He doesn't like sleeping with her because she kicks him. He would like to sleep with his wife, but his wife often likes to sleep next to their child. Just when we travel. So, two beds.
She looked at the set up and declared, "I want to sleep by myself." Then, however, when it got to the actual bedtime, she decided she couldn't fall asleep without me so I was asked to sit with her until she fell asleep, then I could be released to Daddy's bed.
I never did release myself to Daddy's bed. I like sleeping with her, and I was so tired I would fall asleep at the same time as she did, anyway.
I'm afraid that pretty soon she will be able to sleep by herself. And then I will be the clingy one asking if I can be with her. My big girl.