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She's just not that into you

June 16th, 2014

I coincidentally have two girlfriends going through love life changes at the same time, and I'm talking them both through it. One is breaking in a new relationship, one is breaking up.

My text message alert is dinging off the hook. That is, unless I have the phone glued to my ear like I'm in eighth grade again. Husband thinks I/ we are amusing/ridiculous.

One afternoon he came home and caught snippets of these parallel conversations. Then, he went to jujitsu, and when he came home, I was still responding to texts about these men.

You know, questions like: "I texted him and he texted me back with just 'OK.' What do you think that means? What should I text back now? If he liked me wouldn't he have texted back something more? Should I text next or should I call? Should it be tomorrow or the day after? Would that scare him off? Or should I wait for him to call?"

People, don't even act like you haven't been there. You can be all Ivy League- President & CEO- award winning- PhD- Nobel Prize candidate material and you know it's all out the window when it comes to matters of the heart. The game's all different.

I'm always sympathetic to friends in crisis, so I hear it all.

Five hours had elapsed since he first happened on our conversations. "Are you STILL talking about the same things?" he asked in disbelief.

I looked at him disdainfully. "Um. Yes? What's so odd about that?"

"You are grown women. Address the issue once and move on," he suggested, as if this was a line item on a business agenda.

"I don't think you understand," I explained. "We are women. That means we take the temperature of a relationship every seven minutes and analyze it to death, then start the cycle all over. I'm here for them. This is what girlfriends do. Don't even try to understand girl-talk."

"Are all women like this?" he asked.

"Sure. For the right guy, they are," I said.

"Were you like this?" he continued.

"At some point in my life, yes," I answered.

"No, about me," he clarified. Since we have never broken up, he meant during the getting-together phase.

"Oh! No. I wasn't into you," I said honestly and immediately.

Face frown. Not by me.

"Well, sorry. It's just that, you asked me out and I didn't really care if we went out or not," I elaborated.

"That is not helping me feel better," he said flatly.

First photo together, when we finally did go out.

First photo together, when we finally did go out.

I laughed. "I bore you a child. We're even by now."

The next thing I knew I was being rolled off the bed and onto the floor. Honesty isn't always the best policy!

16 Responses to “She's just not that into you”

  1. wafan:

    Congratulations on your return!

  2. wafan:

    Oh, and about your topic? I stay out of the drama. Sometimes it is so tough to keep quiet, though.

  3. Manoa_Fisherman:

    Men are from Mars and women are in another galaxy!

  4. Ken Conklin:

    Nice article in the business section of today's newspaper. Congratulations and best wishes. I hope this thrice-weekly blog continues.

  5. Ken Conklin:

    I forgot to give you my career advice -- be sure to have your dog on-set, and giggle a lot.

  6. Seawalker:

    LOL, Diane. GF, waiting 7 minutes for another reading on potential 'hots and heavies' is too long. Way too long.

  7. M:

    Hello Diane!

  8. makaha wahine:

    Wow! Going back to tv will be so good for you! Hope you will keep up this blog too.
    I think it's good for Olivia to see her mommy's talent on air. Congratulations!

  9. rayboyjr:

    Hey Diane: I think this is a Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus kind of thing ... but funny that I think more like you, than Claus ... don't know if that's a good thing or not ...

  10. rayboyjr:

    ... and Yippee Ki Yay!!! ... hope you still manage to eke out a few blogs every now and then ...

    ... we'll miss you here ...

    ... congratulations! ...

  11. BlueJade:

    LOL I so get what you are saying. Yes, I've analyzed every action/reaction/comment to death when I like someone and first start dating.All my girlfriends did too. Funny how it all goes away once one becomes mutually serious and exclusive, no?

    I guess guys do not get into the intensity that women do. I also like your initial reaction to Klaus's question. LOL You are really honest. Thanks for the laffs...and reminder.

  12. Turfwar:

    Do some blog topics on your tv life at KHON. Night shift isolates you from family life but getting up at 2 am ... did that for a while. So over it.

  13. roach:


    Congratulations on your return to the air. Knock'em dead!

  14. DIO:

    Congratulations on the return to tv.

  15. hatakeman:

    Men from Mars; women from Venus. Sounds like an Edgar Rice Burroughs book.

  16. teri marcus:

    Congradulations on your new job Diane...I will miss seeing smiling face at Halekulani... God Bless and Aloha ...Teri Marcus (HWAK )

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