Small Talk

To the one I love

April 22nd, 2015

I was recently asked the question Who do you admire? Why?

Claus & Diane

Claus & Diane, 2015

The first and best person I could think of was my husband, Claus. Nobody else really came to mind.

I don't admire him because I'm married to him, but I am lucky that I married someone who I did and still do admire.

He's loving, gentle, constant, committed, generous, kind, caring, intelligent, thoughtful, and consistent. He's dedicated, reliable, focused, determined, and perseverant.

Hubby, 2015

Hubby, 2015

He's a loyal husband, a patient father. He's a man of his word. He's a good provider, a stable presence. He is this and so much more.

Together, we raise a sweet child, and we share a life. He supports me when I struggle, he celebrates with me when I succeed. He is a good, good man.

I admire him for all the things he isn't, as well. If he has flaws, they are minor ones.

I think him beautiful inside and out. I always find him the handsomest man in the room.

I know all this - I carry it in me all the time. Yet putting it into words, being asked the question, reminds me of my truth.

This person I admire has a birthday today and I am luckier for it. Happy birthday, Husband.

Posted in dad, family | 12 Comments »

12 Responses to “To the one I love”

  1. keoni:

    Diane, wish Claus a Happy Birthday from us too!

  2. Manoa Mist:

    Aw that's really nice of you Diane. I'm sure he feels like he scored, too!

  3. M:

    Hello Diane,
    That's was soooo sweet. Happy Birthday Claus!!!!

  4. rayboyjr:

    Hey Diane ... ♪ Happy Birthday to Claus ♪ ...

    ... I'm not sure of I can't remember if he has ever guest blogged here ... but maybe you could give him a day to make "Small Talk" with us ...

    ... would be interesting to get his perspective too ...

  5. Chicken Grease:

    Happy birthday to Claus!

    I heard THIS question the other day: whose face do you see most of all in your life? Please include the # of times that you see your OWN face in the mirror (which might be a daily thing? Already that might end up being more than, say, your spouse's, who could be on a trip for, say, work at any given time).

  6. Diane Ako:

    Thanks for the wishes! Chicken Grease, not to be narcissistic, but I guess me, since I spend time 5 days a week putting on makeup and then seeing myself in the monitors for 3 hours a morning.

    rayboyjr, I'll ask him if he wants to blog! He isn't really a writer. He can write well, but that's not his thing.

  7. Annie Lam:

    So so sweet! Say Happy Birthday to Claus for me!

  8. Lori:

    Hello Diane,
    Here on vacation. Wanted to wish my friend hello. Havent seen you since you spoke at the Women Empowering Women event. This visit, i am so close but still so far. Pls let me know the next time you come out my way. I am right near our school.

    SBA '91

  9. N:

    So did you write this knowing all that was going down. whoa that was a shocker, ats a lot of counts against him. (addressing the elephant in the room)

  10. Diane Ako:

    I write 2-3 weeks early and set it to post. I also had no idea. I learned it from reading the Star Advertiser that morning.

    My feelings for him remain the same.

  11. Locomotor:

    Diane must have known. This investigation has been going on a long time, since 2013:

  12. Diane Ako:

    Locomotor, Thank you for caring. Of course I knew about the investigation, but indictment, no. It proceeds in secret without the other party (us) knowing. You get informed that it was convened, after it occurs. Due to timing and circumstance, the way I found out was, as I stated, reading the paper at work Friday morning. Appreciate your readership!
    ...grand jury proceedings are kept in strict confidence. This serves two purposes: It encourages witnesses to speak freely and without fear of retaliation. It protects the potential defendant's reputation in case the jury does not decide to indict.

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