Small Talk

A boy with a crush

July 29th, 2016

There's a boy at Olivia's summer program. He has a crush on her.

She told me so, and it just so happened I got to drop her off and hang out with the class for a while, so I got to chat up the kids, including this one, Kai.

Olivia's art

Olivia's art

He is adorable. He kept buzzing around her. And he was so sweet to me, too.

He had a Darth Vader backpack and a little piece of vinyl ripped off, so he held forth this valuable piece of Star Wars material and said to me, "Here. Do you want this?"

"I'm good, thanks," I smiled, amused at the meaning this little gift held.

Kai's fish

Kai's fish

As an alternate gesture, he gave me a little drawing of a fish that he cut out. "I'm not going to use this in my painting. Do you want this?"

"I would love it," I said.

I went to show the kids pictures of our dog on my phone. Not knowing tech etiquette, their little fast fingers reached forward to the phone in my hands and started swiping to see more pictures.

I had a photo of Olivia crashed out on the bed in a swim suit. I retracted the phone quickly lest she get embarrassed. (See blog about her hypersensitive embarrassment stage.)

Kai said, "Is that Olivia in her underwear?"

"No," I said, and paid attention to the other kids trying to talk to me all at once. Kai was persistent in getting the why of that picture.

Finally I answered, "She was so tired after the beach she fell asleep on her bed." And he wanted to see the photo of her in a bikini again.

Boys. It starts so young.


On the other hand, there is a second Kai, and he gives Olivia his chocolate-covered mushroom cookies every day for snack. I was sure that meant he liked her, too, but she said no.

"Who gives their chocolate mushrooms away? Nobody!" I insisted. But I was wrong.

When I met Kai #2, he confirmed he doesn't like the snack his mother packs him but he likes making his friends happy. I could tell he was truthful.

Olivia in art class

Olivia in art class

So after all this, I learned to respect my kid's intuition. She's going to be OK, this one. She knows what's going on.

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2 Responses to “A boy with a crush”

  1. Jeannette:

    I do not know if it works on all phones but my techie savvy niece and nephew informed me that if you enlarge a picture just a tiny bit before showing it to someone swiping further is not possible. This works for me.

  2. Diane Ako:

    Oh smart! I'll try that next time. I just wasn't thinking; but in general I never have R rated stuff on my phone. It's all photos of my kid, the dog, and my shopping list.

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