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Life in the slow lane

September 16th, 2016

Most people aspire to have a fancy sports car that goes from zero to 60 mph in three seconds. I currently aspire to the '98 Toyota Tercel - in a metaphorical sense.

My life went so fast when I was anchoring in TV news. The morning show was a blur. The day was a blur. My existence was a blur. It all eventually ran together indistinguishably.

These are my feelings about a particular work schedule at a specific time in my life. It was a unique situation. It took all elements of my life to come together to create this perfect storm.

Now my imaginary Tercel is puttering along in the slow lane. I'm audacious enough to even drive five miles under the speed limit and irritate all the other commuters on the road.

I get up when I want, I do what I want, and I feel no obligation to do anything most days. If I want to figure out how to delete songs off my iTunes for two hours, I do that.

If I want to take Inca to the beach in the middle of the day, I do that. I spent an hour looking at Katy Perry music videos once.


What I do a lot of, which I find peaceful, is staring at nature. I sit on my balcony and look at the trees, the mountains, the clouds, the birds. I think about the Earth spinning slowly on its axis, and feel like I'm spinning slower and slower on mine.

I see neighborhood cats wandering around, I hear chickens, and I observe the geckos.

I am, to my surprise, way more familiar with gecko behavior than I ever expected I could be. I watch them defend their territory, fight (they stand up sideways on one front and one hind leg to appear bigger), and mate.

I am familiar with the pets' morning routine. Apparently, Inca developed an annoying habit of barking at precisely 8 a.m. until our neighbor comes over with a snack. Inca has Vicki well-trained.

Our cat eats breakfast then scoots over to Vicki's to steal Pretty Boy's leftovers. She doesn't return home until midday, when she goes into the loft for her nap.

I know when the flowers bloom on the Manila palms and I watch the bees come pollinate every morning. Sometimes there's one large anole lizard who creeps among the buds to quietly sun.

Bulbuls, ringnecked doves, Japanese white-eyes, red-crested cardinals, Java sparrows, and the occasional pigeon live in the trees around us. I like to listen to them and watch them at all times of day.

I like that these are the things I know about now. I feel quiet and calm. Gecko fighting is all the drama I want to witness.

Nothing lasts forever. This phase will pass. For now, though, I've pulled my figurative car into the scenic lookout and I'm enjoying the view.

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7 Responses to “Life in the slow lane”

  1. Kim:

    I love your blogs, just reading them makes every mom feel "normal". Keep up the excellent work and never stop enjoying the little things🌺

  2. Diane Ako:

    Kim, That is such a wonderful compliment! My gosh! Thank you! I know we moms need a check/ balance now and then to remind ourselves we're on the right track. I'm not sure a low-energy, slow mom like I am nowadays is "normal" - but I'm trying. LOL!

  3. Lou Scheer:

    So very happy for you sounds as though you are enjoying your new lifestyle and relaxing a little. You certainly deserve a little time off after all those early mornings and long day's.
    I must say however that beautiful wife and I miss you on the morning show. Actually we don't even watch it every day like when you were on now only once in awhile.

  4. Diane Ako:

    Lou, how delightful of you to say. Thank you. Well, we'll just have to connect on FB, IG, or the blog. Good thing for Internet! Thanks for reading. 🙂

  5. Hapa_Haole_Boy:

    Hearing about your Tercel and gecko-watching is almost as enjoyable as being able to do it ourselves, keep on sharing your "life in the slow lane" with us Diane, it's quite the treat 🙂

  6. Diane Ako:

    Hapa_Haole_Boy, how cute that you'd say that. Thanks. I didn't expect this blog to resonate with people as much as it does. I think that means a lot of people need to slow down with me!

  7. Tita Girl:

    The best thing you can do for yourself is to turn off the internal dialog and be still.
    Looks like you've already found that. Thanks for sharing and reminding us to take the slow lane.

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