Archive for the ‘dad’ Category

Kali the dog

May 25th, 2015

My friend Paul Drewes recently got a new dog. It'd been some years since his other dogs died and he said he didn't think he would get a new one, but his kids nagged him into it, so he says.

Kali Drewes

Kali Drewes

"We had a family meeting. We all got to say what quality we wanted in a dog. I said I wanted a low-maintenance dog, because I knew I'd be the primary caretaker. I wanted something that didn't shed, an adult, well-trained, housebroken, friendly, and solved mysteries on the side," he describes.

So everyone had a list of what the perfect dog would be, and the children agreed they would walk it, feed it, clean up after it, and all that good stuff.

They had just started this process of looking when they saw a foster dog at the dog park. It was a cute female Lab-Spaniel mix that won the kids' hearts that afternoon.

"She was nothing on the list. Nothing," says Paul, who tried to discourage them, but it's hard when the kids have their heart set on something, so they adopted her and named her Kali.

"Now I have a dog with long hair that sheds like crazy, is a puppy, bites, pees everywhere, and to top it off, she does not solve mysteries in her spare time," he sighs. "Let me put it to you this way. She is so misbehaved, she was rejected from Petco for a grooming."

Paul and Kali

Paul and Kali

He brought her to my house where I met her for the first time. She is dear.

She is also needy and either sticks right to his leg or leans into the screen door to make sure she can tell he hasn't left without her, and whines or scratches the door every so often to remind him she's out there. She was out there with my dog and the two completely ignored each other.

Kali is still quite young (one year old) so she is certain to improve with time, because that was the trajectory with my dog. But I laugh at him, because the guy with so much on his plate is also now a dog dad all over again.

I'm going to buy him the Lassie DVD collection so somewhere in his house there will be a well-behaved canine that doesn't shed and still fights crime.

Most Popular Baby Names in Hawaii for 2014

May 15th, 2015

 The Social Security Administration announced the most popular baby names in Hawaii for 2014.  Emma and Noah topped the list.

The top five boys and girls names for 2014 in Hawaii were:

Boys:                                       Girls:

1)   Noah                                 1)   Emma

2)   Liam                                 2)   Mia

3)   Mason                               3)   Sophia

4)   Aiden                                4)   Aria

5)   Alexander                         5)   Lily

Carolyn W. Colvin, Acting Commissioner of Social Security, announced last week that Noah and Emma were the most popular baby names in the U.S.  How does Hawaii compare to the rest of the country?  Check out Social Security’s website -- to see the top baby names for 2014.

Social Security has a new addition this year too, Social Security Matters, the agency’s newborn interactive blog located at

Social Security Matters, the agency’s new bundle of joy, launches as it celebrates 80 years of serving the American public. It also is a place where the public can engage in conversations with the agency about what matters most. The blog encourages discussion and offers important solutions.

The birth of a child is a special time for families. While having fun with the baby names list, Acting Commissioner Colvin encourages everyone to visit the agency’s website and create a my Social Security account at www.socialsecurity.govmy Social Security is a personalized online account that people can use beginning in their working years and continuing throughout the time they receive Social Security benefits.

Social Security and Supplemental Security Income (SSI) beneficiaries can have instant access to their benefit verification letter, payment history, and complete earnings record by establishing a my Social Security account.  Beneficiaries also can change their address, start or change direct deposit information, and print a replacement SSA-1099 online.

Individuals age 18 and older who are not receiving benefits can also sign up for a my Social Security account to get their personalized online Social Security Statement.  The online Statement provides workers with secure and convenient access to their Social Security earnings and benefit information, and estimates of future benefits they can use to plan for their retirement.

In addition to each state’s top baby names, Social Security’s website has a list of the 1,000 most popular boys’ and girls’ names for 2014 and offers lists of baby names for each year since 1880.

To read about this year’s winner for the biggest jump in popularity and to see how pop culture affects baby names, go to!/post/5-2015-1.


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Mother's Day 2015

May 13th, 2015

I love Mother's Day because I love being Olivia's mother, and I love my own mother.

Mother's Day is really for the kids, I have come to realize. Olivia took great pleasure in making and giving me gifts, and since seven-year-olds can't keep a secret, I got to hear all about it in the week leading up to it.

That was like a gift to me too - I love hearing her get excited about what she's planning for me. In her art class, she made a coin purse for me with a potpourri sachet inside. I'm required to wear this on my purse.

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Later in the week, I got a beautiful, hand-made note pad holder. The night before, she laboriously wrapped four gifts for me in secret in her room. JUST - SO - CUTE.

Sunday morning, so woke up early and got her dad out of bed so they could make me breakfast. I was instructed not to come into the kitchen until they called me, which is a little funny since my weekend habit is to have a cup of coffee and wake up slowly while I drink it. I don't usually eat for a while until I have had coffee. So I'm skulking about my room waiting to be told I could come out.

Olivia had taken such great care to make everything perfect and set the table with my place setting in the middle of the counter. She glowed in my praise for her attention to detail, thoughtfulness, and creativity.

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I remember doing similar for my mother, and it always being such a lovely moment. The daily grind of parenting has its challenges but a day like this reminds me of why it's well worth it!

How was your Mother's Day? I hope it was a good one!

Olivia's dog blog, "Kona, my dog that died"

April 27th, 2015

by Olivia

2015 Mar_Olivia blog_Kona

We buried our dog Kona a couple months ago. This was my blog:, this is Olivia's version, which I transcribed.

We buried Kona, my blonde dog that died.  She was very old.  She got buried on February 16th on Presidents Day.  Her ashes were white.  I almost cried.  I wish she could stay forever.  I loved her very much.  Inca and Kona were best friends when Kona died.  Inca was whimpering to death!  They were like 'bff's' ('best friends forever') sisters!  Forever and ever and ever for life!  I wonder why we buried her in Inca's play yard?! Now they can hang out all the time.

To the one I love

April 22nd, 2015

I was recently asked the question Who do you admire? Why?

Claus & Diane

Claus & Diane, 2015

The first and best person I could think of was my husband, Claus. Nobody else really came to mind.

I don't admire him because I'm married to him, but I am lucky that I married someone who I did and still do admire.

He's loving, gentle, constant, committed, generous, kind, caring, intelligent, thoughtful, and consistent. He's dedicated, reliable, focused, determined, and perseverant.

Hubby, 2015

Hubby, 2015

He's a loyal husband, a patient father. He's a man of his word. He's a good provider, a stable presence. He is this and so much more.

Together, we raise a sweet child, and we share a life. He supports me when I struggle, he celebrates with me when I succeed. He is a good, good man.

I admire him for all the things he isn't, as well. If he has flaws, they are minor ones.

I think him beautiful inside and out. I always find him the handsomest man in the room.

I know all this - I carry it in me all the time. Yet putting it into words, being asked the question, reminds me of my truth.

This person I admire has a birthday today and I am luckier for it. Happy birthday, Husband.