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The cockroach who got to third base

October 7th, 2015

I like to hang up my clothes to dry. I like washing and hanging up the laundry. It's a bit of housework Zen.

A huge cockroach crept into Claus' jujitsu gi. Of course! What a nice, dark, moist place to call home, right?

He folded it up and put it in his car to go to class the next day. It came darting out and scurried into his car.

As he tells it, he had to scramble to chase it and flick it out of the car. He then warned me the next day to check all the clothes I take off the line for unwanted guests.

I'm totally paranoid now. My t-shirts are getting a TSA-worthy inspection.

I correct that. The Federal Courthouse guys are way more thorough.

Anyhoo, this reminds me of when I lived in Nuevo Casas Grandes, Mexico. It was hot and humid, and we were all spending our days at the local watering hole.

My swim suit hung in the dark bathroom, and one day I was given ten minute's notice that we're going to the pool: Hurry! Get ready!

I pulled on my suit. I spent about three hours in the water.

When I got home, I went to the bathroom, and when I pulled down my bottoms, I saw this weird brown mass sitting in there. And I know that didn't come out of me. Or at least I would hope so.

After five very looooong seconds, confusion turned to recognition and I screamed The Scream Heard Around The World.

The other girls came rushing in to see what happened. I was pointing to my suit and hyperventilating.

It was a soggy German cockroach, folded in half nicely. The girls laughed so hard I thought they would pee their pants.

Now other people started coming to see what the commotion was and I'm trying to tell the girls to shut the bathroom door so I wouldn't be half naked in front of males.

Oh, who am I kidding. I just let a roach get to third base with me. What does it matter now?

Then, as if this can't get worse, the roach starts unfolding and coming back to life with the infusion of new oxygen. The LEGS START WIGGLING.

I cannot believe it's actually alive after I submerged it for three hours in water. Honestly, I didn't get out of the pool because it was so hot.

I scream and point again and this sends the girls to the ground to roll around for another renewed burst of laughter.

I felt DISGUSTING. I took the hottest shower possible. I might have used up the whole bar of soap.

Needless to say, 1) I always check my clothing before I put it on now, and 2) You'd think that roach could at least have bought me a drink first before getting right up in my business.

Aaaaand... if you have an equally horrifying roach tale I would love to hear it because misery loves company, and I've not heard a worse one yet. Oh please, oh please, I hope I'm not the only one with this kind of story.

Kailua Ahupua'a Geology Tour

September 27th, 2015

Do you want to know how the Ko‘olau eruptive center was formed two million years ago? Sign up now for a popular Kailua Ahupua’a Geology Tour that includes Kawainui Marsh.

On Saturday, October 3rd from 8:30 am to 12:30 pm., Dr. Floyd McCoy, geology professor from the Windward Community College, will take a tour group to the Pali Lookout, AMERON quarry and Na Pohaku of Hauwahine, by Kawainui Marsh. He will talk about the Ko‘olau eruptive center and how the catastrophic collapse of the windward side of the shield volcano occurred. He'll show the group dike formations and the quarrying operations by AMERON.

Dr. McCoy will then look at Na Pohaku o Hauwahine and explain the geological features of Kawainui . Bring your cameras, sun screen, wear outdoor gear and walking shoes. The group will car pool between sites.

The tour is co-sponsored by Ahahui Malama i ka Lokahi, and AMERON. Donations of $10 will be accepted. There will be a limit of 30 persons and you must make reservations by calling Ka`imi Rick Scudder at (808) 263-8008 or

Kaho'olawe Volunteer & Support Opportunities

September 26th, 2015

Kākoʻo iā Kahoʻolawe Work Day

Make an active contribution to the restoration of Kahoʻolawe while learning about the culture, history and ecology therein. Join the Kaho`olawe Island Reserve Commission (KIRC) for its next volunteer work day on Saturday, September 26, at the Kihei Boat House (2780 South Kihei Road - directly adjacent to the Kihei Boat Ramp) anytime between 8 a.m. - 12 p.m. Upcoming dates may be found here.

Courtesy: KIRC

Courtesy: KIRC

Work opportunities include improving the Kaho`olawe walking trail and assisting with the setup of a native plant nursery, where plants will be propagated for Kaho'olawe. Bring gloves, closed-toe shoes and sunblock. KIRC will provide the rest!

Complimentary lunch is included for volunteers by Daniel Southmayd of Vineyard Food Company.

Mahinaʻai Night

Part of a series of full moon events geared to raise awareness of and access to Kahoʻolawe, Mahina`ai Night offers a guided tour of the KIRC's new walking trail on its Kihei property, live music by UH Maui College's Institute of Hawaiian Music, food vendors, an opportunity to talk story with experts in Kahoʻolawe history, restoration and culture and more.

Courtesy: KIRC

Courtesy: KIRC

This program is made possible by a grant through the Maui County Product Enrichment Program (CPEP).


Sunday, September 27, from 6 - 8 p.m. The 45-minute tour begins at 6 p.m. sharp. Music from 7 - 8 p.m.
Free & open to the public
Park at the Kihei Boat Ramp and follow signs for the Kah`oolawe Island Reserve Commission (KIRC) - just a short walk to the boat house site (2780 South Kihei Road)
RSVP's are requested by clicking here, or at (808) 243-5888
NOTE: Flash lights and closed-toe footwear are strongly recommended as you will be walking on a mulch-lined path amongst kiawe. Because there are no ATMs on site, please bring cash or checks if you plan to purchase food, beverages or to make a contribution to the Kaho`olawe Rehabilitation Trust Fund.

Aloha Kaho'olawe 2015

Courtesy: KIRC

Courtesy: KIRC

In preparation for the 2016 legislative session, KIRC asks that you consider joining a friend or sharing your personal stories with others in order to help them understand the importance of sustaining its Volunteer Program on-island. If you are not familiar with GoFundMe and prefer to donate money by cash or check, you may send to KIRC at 811 Kolu Street, Suite 201, Wailuku, HI 96793.

Why Smart Men Do the Same Dumb Things: A Hawai‘i Psychologist Decodes the Warrior Mindset

September 25th, 2015

The irrationally demanding boss. The temperamental, uncommunicative father. The co-worker who never admits mistakes. The husband who won’t ask for directions.

Why do so many men self-sabotage their personal growth and relationships? It’s not just a “guy thing,” says veteran Hawai‘i psychologist Dr. Rosalie K. Tatsuguchi. “It’s a ‘Musashi thing.’”

Dr. Rosie Tatsuguchi. Courtesy: Watermark Publishing

Dr. Rosalie Tatsuguchi. Courtesy: Watermark Publishing

And the good news is that change is possible. Generations of men, whether they know it or not, have patterned their lives after the legendary warrior Miyamoto Musashi, who practiced bushido, the way of the warrior.

His teachings prioritized the suppression of feelings, constant wariness, isolation and the willingness to sacrifice one’s life in service of the clan lord. Followers of Musashi’s way don’t talk much. They don’t consider feelings and emotions relevant to decision making. They are perfectionists.

They don’t explain themselves, ask questions or tolerate others’ questions. They are hard on themselves and those around them.

Their children and subordinates often fear them. They lack closeness and understanding in their relationships. They are the type of friend who would die for another, but won’t ask about—or reveal—personal troubles.

Courtesy: Dawn Sakamoto

Courtesy: Dawn Sakamoto

This warrior mindset is the basis of Dr. Tatsuguchi’s newly released book, Why Smart Men Do the Same Dumb Things: A Warrior’s Manual for Change, a new release from Watermark Publishing. The book is a follow-up to her previous work, Why Smart People Do the Same Dumb Things: Causes and Cures from Buddhism and Science (Watermark, 2011).

This time around, Dr. Tatsuguchi explains the warrior code paradigm and teaches how to differentiate between the appropriate times to be a stern samurai or be open to giving and accepting intimacy. It’s a guide to beginning the process of behavioral change and opening the door to better relationships with peers, friends and family.

Dr. Tatsuguchi’s unique approach is rooted in the connection between modern scientific methodology and Buddhist principles of free inquiry and respect for the human spirit. This model of thinking will help readers realize and admit mistakes, correct them and live a more fulfilled, happier life.  She also delves into the persona of the “lady samurai,” an equally restrictive and unhealthy warrior-minded personality adopted by women.

This “samurai attitude” can hurt you in the workplace by creating obstacles to teamwork and, contrary to popular belief, making you a poor leader. Men (and women!) who have internalized the tenets of bushido do not consider emotions important, dislike being questioned, have difficulty admitting mistakes and believe that if you haven’t sacrificed yourself, your contributions are worthless.

This leads to poor communication, unrealistic expectations and a hostile environment. Employees who harbor these values are no better off—they are prone to burnout and are constantly dissatisfied with co-workers.

Most of all, the warrior mentality considers any sign of weakness a major failing—this can include making mistakes, not knowing an answer, asking for help or showing emotions like sadness, fear or kindness. Warriors are fearful of appearing weak and will often lash out to cover up what they perceive as a display of weakness. They also insist on a “die trying, no matter what” approach to everything.

If the warrior is you:

• Feelings are important data. Expressing feelings is not a sign of weakness. If you want to work harmoniously with other people, you need to be able to understand how they think and feel.

If you fail to consider other people’s feelings, you won’t be able to accurately predict their actions or understand the best way to motivate them. You need to consider emotions, as well as facts, in your equation for accurate problem solving.

• You are not a human sacrifice. The bushido code teaches warriors they must not fear death; they must be willing to “die for the cause.”

This discipline leads to physical and mental toughness, which can help them overcome many challenges, but it makes workplace warriors particularly prone to burnout because they feel compelled to give 110% in every endeavor, no matter the situation or personal consequences. It's important to allow yourself—and your employees—to set limits, give feedback, say no and request help.

• Information is to be shared. Samurai did not share information because it exposed them to possible attack or betrayal; their soldiers only needed to know where to go and whom to attack.

In a workplace environment, your employees and co-workers need to be able to make their own decisions, based on good information that is shared with everyone. Many problems can be averted or solved better through timely sharing of information.

If you work with a warrior:

• Respect everyone’s busshin. Your busshin is your inner self, your energy, your soul. Warriors ignore feelings and believe that they should follow orders, endure silently and “die trying.” It is easy to take advantage of their seemingly endless capacity to work hard.

Warriors also have little respect for anyone’s busshin, including their own. If you work with a warrior who won’t change, it is up to you to remember to respect their busshin by accepting your share of work; honor your own, too, by making it clear when you have not been given the tools necessary to perform a job or speaking up about other situations that disrespect your busshin.

• Write it down. Warriors tend to make unrealistic demands driven by an unspoken quest for perfection. Follow up such a demand by writing down the request and asking them to confirm their words.

When the warrior sees how absurd the task is, they may say, “No, that’s not what I meant.” (Accept that you may get some heat for “not understanding.”) You can potentially head this off by offering a different plan of action that accomplishes a similar end-goal, but is more reasonable to execute. This gives the warrior a chance to save face by simply approving your plan instead of admitting an error.

Why Smart Men Do the Same Dumb Things: A Warrior’s Manual for Change (ISBN 978-1-935690-66-5) will be available at the end of September for $16.95 at bookstores, other retail outlets, online booksellers or direct from the publisher at

Dr. Tatsuguchi will make the following appearances for her new release. Seminars will include a 30-40 minute discussion introducing Dr. Tatsuguchi's philosophy regarding the “samurai attitude” and how warriors can effect change in their lives for better mental health and improved relationships with friends, family and co-workers. Questions are welcome. All events are free.

Saturday, September 26
9 a.m. – noon | Mo‘ili‘ili Hongwanji Bazaar
902 University Ave | (808) 949-1659
book signing

Saturday, October 3
9 a.m. – 11 a.m.| Buddhist Study Center
1436 University Ave. | (808) 973-6555
seminar, followed by book signing

Sunday, October 11
2 p.m. – 3 p.m. | Native Books / Na Mea Hawai‘i
Ward Warehouse | (808) 596-8885
seminar, followed by book signing

Saturday, November 7
1 p.m. | Gallery Theater, Japanese Cultural Center of Hawaii
2454 S Beretania St.  | (808) 945-7633

Kaua`i Civil Defense siren tests scheduled Sept. 22-24

September 22nd, 2015

Kaua`i Civil Defense wants to let people know it will be testing nine newly installed Civil Defense outdoor warning sirens this week.

The special soundings are for acceptance testing, and will be conducted in partnership with the Hawai`i Emergency Management Agency (HI-EMA).

The testing will be conducted over a three-day period, Sept. 22 to Sept. 24, from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. at the following locations:

  •   Wailua Houselots Park
  •   Wailua Golf Course (south end)
  •   Hanamā‘ulu Beach Park
  •   Puhi
  •   Kōloa Town
  •   Po‘ipū Beach Park
  •   Halēwili Road
  •   Kalawai Park
  •   Kekaha (next to the Chinese cemetery)

Area residents may hear the sirens sound for six to eight times during the 30-second to one-minute intervals. The testing will also include short blasts known as “burps.”

The Kaua‘i Civil Defense Agency is seeking volunteers willing to assist with the testing by reporting issues with the sirens, particularly the ones that are in new locations.

Volunteers living or working close to a Civil Defense siren would be placed on a phone list for potential calls following the monthly siren test, which is on the first business day of each month.

Anyone who would like to volunteer can call (808) 241-1800 or send an email to

Anyone with questions or concerns regarding the modernization of the statewide outdoor warning system may call HI-EMA at (808) 733-4300.